I’d been contemplating a different sort of entry today, another technology-related one, but as California enters the world of same-sex marriage, and as I read the New York Times, a change in plan comes to my mind.
The title of the Times article is what first caught my eye: Gay Couples Find Marriage Is a Mixed Bag.
Has anyone seen an article titled Straight Couples Find Marriage Is a Mixed Bag? Because it’s certainly as true, and why would anyone expect otherwise? Marriage is, as should be clear to anyone, a “mixed bag,” irrespective of the relative races, religions, ages, ethnic backgrounds... or sexes of its participants. Couples Find Marriage Is a Mixed Bag.
Some same-sex couples say being married has made a big difference, and some say it has made no difference at all. There are devoted couples who have decided marriage is not for them, couples whose lawyers or accountants advised them against marrying, and couples in which one partner wants to marry but the other does not.All exactly, completely, entirely true without the “same-sex” qualifier applied. Does anyone expect otherwise? Should anyone expect otherwise?
This is something that’s bothered me since the discussion of same-sex marriage started: that its opponents hold same-sex couples up for examination and criticize the whole concept if they’re not better than straight couples — better at getting along, better at being happy, better at keeping their marriages together.
News: They’re not. They’re not better. They’re people, with the same interpersonal relationship issues as everyone else, and, in fact, that’s exactly the point... that they are the same, and should have the same rights — and the same opportunity to be as flawed at getting through life without conflict as the rest of us are.
In other words, the fact that same-sex marriages sometimes fail is not evidence that it’s wrong. It’s not an indictment of same-sex marriage at all. Stop that. Stop trying to make it one. Until opposite-sex couples can claim to be trouble-free, there’s nothing interesting here.
Gay Couples Find Marriage Is a Mixed Bag
Dog Bites Man
Sun Rises In East.
And out there in the west, a second U.S. state comes to its official senses. Only 48 to go.